Sunday, January 17, 2010

Do you think that teenagers can make good parents?

If you ask me age doesn't matter when your a parent. As long as you love your kids and take good care of them, but everybody keeps telling me that teenagers are bad parents. What do you think?Do you think that teenagers can make good parents?
I found out that I was pregnant about a month before my 17th birthday, when I was a senior in high school. I graduated high school second in my class with a 4.1 GPA when I was 17 and 4 months pregnant and my little girl Kennedy was born on November 4, 2005, when I was 17 1/2...





I am independent and extremely self sufficient. I work hard, on top of going to school, and my daughter has everything she needs and wants plus much more. Some (including me) would say that she is spoiled...





My daughter and I live with my mom, my older sister and her two daughters, not because I can't afford a place of our own, but because I think it's great that my daughter is able to be with her cousins everyday... And I love being with my family! Neither my sister or I are living off our mother for free, we both pay rent, we split the bills and food costs...





I'm not on any kind of government aid, not even financial aid for school... In fact, if you look at the statistics you will find that there the majority of mother's on welfare are in their 30's...





I'm not a sl*t or a whore, I've only slept with one person, my daughter's father, who I was with for over a year before we decided to have sex (and we are STILL together after 5 years!)... We did use protection, I was on the pill and he always wore a condom, but one night it broke... I didn't think anything of it because I was on the BC, but then 6 weeks later the stick turned pink...





I wasn't planning on getting pregnant at 16, but it happened and I'm so glad it did... My daughter is my everything and I couldn't imagine life without my little angel!!! Sure, my life is totally different than what I had foreseen, but it is also so much better!





I know a lot of older mother's that are a lot worse parents than I am. I know that I'm a great mother and my family knows it and most importantly my daughter knows it! My little girl is happy, healthy and smart and I try my hardest to do everything the ';right'; way. I'm raising my little girl with the morals and values that I was raised with and I want to make sure that she knows she can talk to me about anything!





It's definitely not an easy job to be a young mother and trying to raise a child and go to school, but at the same time it's not easy being a parent at all, no matter what age...





Now, I don't recommend it because like I said before it is an extremely hard job, but it is so worth it and most of the teen parents I know are wonderful parents... I don't think it's so much the age that matters, as much as the person's level of maturity. I know some 20 and 30 something moms that are still way to selfish and immature...





I really hate teen mother stereotypes, I am none of those things... People shouldn't typecast others because they have a kid... People shouldn't judge other people without knowing the stories behind their lives... Don't judge a book by it's cover, ya know?





So yeah, that's my opinion on teen pregnancy, it's hard and scary but it is also the best thing that ever happened to me. Teen mothers are not just some stereotype, we are mothers trying to raise our children and doing the best we can!Do you think that teenagers can make good parents?
I thought this an awesome read and am glad that you have succeeded as well as you have; however, as you did say, I would like to emphasize that this isn't something that I would recommend that teenagers do, but if you should find yourself in this situation, take comfort knowing that there is hope!

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I think most teenage parents are very naive when it comes to parenthood.


If most haven't had the initiative to go on birth control or not engage in the act in the first place, it definately makes it a bit of a struggle to be a ';good'; parent.





However, I think the regardless of age, the love parents feel for their children is constant, so it's not a question of whether they'll love their baby any less then adults. However, teenagers have different priorities, and less experience as well as opportunities and financial stability. It's these ';factors'; mixed with a bit of ignorance that can reflect the ';bad parent'; label for teenage parents.





Then again, I definately think it depends on circumstances.


And I don't think theres any way to sucessful categorize parents as ';good'; or ';bad';
From working with teenage parents I have concluded that on the whole they are not good parents. Don't get angry at me I have my reasons.





1. Even though they may be able to provide their children with the physical things like food, drink, shelter, clothes etc they don't have the best capacity to deliver the needed emotional and intellectual support children need especially in their first 5 years.





2. The limited capacity often results in children who have learning difficulties and behavioural problems and teen parents are not mature enough to deal with it properly.





3. Children need a safe and stable home life something that teen relationships can most of the time not deliver.





Loving kids is only the first step but it is not the whole story.
Anyone can be a good parent, but the responsibility is totally different when you're talking financial. A teenager doesn't have the full responsibility to financially support herself and a baby.


Other people are usually involved. The father, his family or of course the mother's family. A baby takes more than just love.





Violet
I think they can, but babies need WAY more than just love.





If a baby is born to a 14 year old girl, that baby is not going to get the same opportunities it would have gotten if it were born to a 25 year old financially stable woman. It's the truth. A 14 year old can't even get a job, so they have to have their parents raise their child. And as for teens who can get jobs, their paychecks won't support a baby on their own. They NEED their parents to help. That's just how it is.





I think it's selfish to get pregnant and rely on your parents to help you. If you're not living on your own, paying your own bills, buying your own food, and buying things for your own baby, you're not doing your job as a parent.





to madismum: hmm..you can't be all too happy with your life if you're seriously getting offended. you know everyone is right.
teenagers can make good parents.


if something ever happened to my parents, i know i could take care of myself and my brother, even though i'm a minor and my aunts and uncles would never let me.


that's the thing i absolutely hate about being a teenager, i KNOW i can take care of myself, i could hold a job, i am seriously independent. i'm just not old enough, and nobody (or at least not my parents) believes me. i have to deal with it, i'm stuck with the parents for at least another three years. yay. -_-





i absolutely love kids. i can take care of a kid, absolutely, and it would be hard, but i think that the love of a child toward its mother or father is..well i dont know the word for it.


but really, when you HAVE to depend on someone for everything, and you cant just avoid them like i do my parents, you really need them and you love them, and anyone would be a fool to refuse that, or to exploit that (although i know there are millions of people out there who would, and wouldn't think twice about it)


babies exude love. they're always warm and soft and they love you no matter what, because whether you're the big sister or the mommy of the grandpa, you're always there and they know that. your baby will still love you no matter how much your husband hates you. all you have to do is love the baby. and that isn't hard to do.


arranged marraiges are for the purpose of making babies. the husband and the wife dont go into the marraige loving each other, and usually they don't even end up loving each other, but when they have a baby, they both love that baby because its theirs. it's his baby and its her baby and its their love for that baby that unites them.





sorry went a little offtrack there.


again, teenagers can make good parents, better than some adults. teenagers can be self-centered and stupid, but i think their love is more real than anything. my best friend loves his baby sister like she's his daughter, and it really is the sweetest thing ever. there's a lot of stuff about teenage moms in this section, and every single story from a teenage mom involves how she ';has no social life anymore.'; i'm sorry, but to me, complaining about that just says they aren't ready to be parents.


i hate when my mom complains. i guess she's doing it to try and tell me to be thankful because of what she sacrifices for us, but really i think that the mark of a good parent is one who doesn't show the kids how bad a situation is. a good parent should show it in a good light, always, unless the kid is older and needs to or asks to be told the entire story as it is. i do admit, there are situations like that.


but im a kid, i like enjoying that. i'm not exactly carefree, and i love hearing and solving people's problems but i dont include my parents in that. my mom just pisses me off.


another thing that's good about young parents is that they remember. my mom was 27 when she had me, and she's tried to tell me about what she calls ';teenage rebelliousness'; but she doesnt remember that, it was more than thirty freaking years ago. everything was different back then, and she doesn't actually remember how she feels...


if you're a teenage parent, you probably file it away inside your head


';if my kid gets pregnant when they grow up i will NOT act like my parents did'; or ';im going to be as supportive as my parents are if my kid gets pregnant in high school'; or whatever. you actually think of things like that. because lets face it, forty years ago most people didn't have issues like these. HIV wasn't around, or not discovered at least, less teenagers got pregnant, most poeple were married before they had sex (or babies at least)...








haha i went waaay off topic...
Yea i think they can


its not the age thats important its how resonsible the teenager is


if they give the baby love and have the money 2 support it and is willin 2 get up in the middle of the night and through away goin out on friday and saturday nights gettin recked. A baby is alot of hard work, it depends on the person and the support they recieve.
No they don't, and the teenager will have to stop hanging out with their friends and take care of their own baby and not make their moms help. It's sad and depressing what these young women put on their mothers to do... I've heard stories where the mother would threaten to leave the baby alone if the Grandma didn't come and take care of it. That is messed up in so many ways and its not cute or funny. It's pure stupid.
i think teenagers can make extremely good parents.





i think that people think they make bad parents because there children themselves, and people don't seem to get that everyone makes mistakes.but as one person said, its takes alot more then love to raise a baby.
teen parents can be good parents, but it really depends on the teens and how they raise the child.


the main thing that they have to be is mature enough to know what they are dealing with. if they are not mature enough, then they will make for poor parents.
to all the people who say teenage parents suck...**** you....i was sixteen when i had my daughter and 18 when i had my son and i'm doing just fine thank you very much....dont pass judgement on people you dont even effing know.
I think that teenagers are capable of being good parents when they own up to their consequences and learn to put themselves second. However in most cases that is hard because teenagers are usually more self centered...
Absolutely not.


Most children who are sent to foster homes are from teenage mothers.


Me being a teenager myself,It's too hard to deal with the responsibility of caring for another human being.
i dont think they can:S cuz they gotta go to skool and everything.but if you got the money and have the support from family. i wouldnt say no
NO WAY





TEEN MOMS = SLUTS!

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