Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Do you have any suggestions on how to motivate teenagers to help around the house?

I have two teenage sons who are extremely lazy. I'm tired of coming off as the person always complaining and I'm fed up with yelling at them. There have to be better ways to get them to help.Do you have any suggestions on how to motivate teenagers to help around the house?
If there teen agers they have gotten to the point where they have stoped listening to your yelling. Mine Stoped listening a long time ago.





I would, like others have suggested, stop doing for them. My daughter refuse to do the dishes so I gave her one plate one knife,fork spoon, one cup, on bowl and so on. Those were hers and hers alone, either she washed them or eat out of something dirty. I stoped doing her laundry and since we do not have a washer and dryer at home that means she has to go and pay at the laundry mat. I did the same with the towls. She gets two a week and no more.





She has started to help out a lot more.





You could also pay them or brib them. What ever works.Do you have any suggestions on how to motivate teenagers to help around the house?
Money has always been a great motivating factor for me.


If that doesn't work, try doing the housework at odd hours


let's say, 6:00 A.M. Saturday morning.
My answer was pretty simple... No help from them..no dates, outings with friends, football games Etc. My kids found out rather quickly that if they wanted a social life the chores must be done.
Stop doing your part. Don't cook, clean, do laundry, cart them around, buy them things etc. I am sure that sounds harsh, but they sound like they have developed a habit of relying on you get things done. They won't help if they don't want to and they won't help if they don't have to. If they have to wear dirty clothes to school for a week, maybe they will get the message.
suggest, stop yelling at them instead whisper to them...then impose a point system and strictly adhere to them...the points will earn them privilages and allowance money, if need be...calmly explain to them the results and reinforce it with hard real life facts...for example, if garbage is not taken-out then reinforce this with a field trip to your local hospitals, sanitation departments, and local public health dept...also, goto your local library and get how-to books in building self-esteem for teens and implement it.
do what my parents do..not let me go out unless i get my chores done. your sons may complain and throw a bit of a fit, but atleast they got the stuff done they needed to.
You can either tell them that unless they get their act together then you will not cook and wash their clothes for them. Do not give them any money if they ask for it .Good luck.
Sometimes you have to become a hardass. Start withholding privileges if they don't help you out. If this works, and they begrudgingly start doing chores you assign them, then give them rewards here and there for their help.

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